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Bushes, nails and femininity

Only a decade ago I wouldn’t have even considered leaving the house without having my toe nails painted. I would refuse to get  sexy unless I had perfectly smooth legs and a Brazilian bikini. Then one day during one of my visits to Australia a man friend asked me:...

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When people don’t show up the way you want them to

Is there someone in your life who is not showing up for you in the way you’d like them to? It usually hurts a lot because it feels like that person is behaving in this way because they don’t like you enough. In fact it usually hurts like hell because somewhere deep...

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Bridge between inner and outer world

At first one has to go within and discover the inner world, that exists beyond the ever chaotic outer world. But then there has to come a time when there is no longer duality of inner and outer worlds. There has to come a time when one recognises that there is no...

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At the footsteps of the Great Pyramid

“We have to walk. And fast.” - I say. I start walking. I have no thoughts. I don’t look back. I trust that everyone is walking behind me. We must do this. It’s night in Cairo. The traffic is wild. There are no traffic lights, we have to cross the highway twice, and...

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Surrendering to the mystery of existence

I once had a really profound experience through being rejected by someone I was really attracted to. I tried everything on him. All my seduction tricks. I tried being very sweet. I tried being very expressive and sexy. I tried cornering him and demanding a date. I was...

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Ask and you shall receive – “Liberation” for your ears!

My bestselling book Liberation Into Orgasm, that was published in April last year, is an invitation to go on a journey that will take you through pleasure beyond pleasure. This book is not just a bunch of nice ideas that are only good for the mind, it is an invitation...

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Challenges and happiness

Challenges have a purpose that is bigger than finding a way to resolve these challenges. At times we indulge in the pain and simply sink, lower and lower... But sooner or later there has to come a point when you realise that you are so damn challenged - there’s no way...

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Conscious leaders and how to become one

I have founded two schools,  the Priestess School and the Tantra Mystery School. (You will know everything about the latter really soon). Each of them offers a journey that evidently leads somewhere. But where do they lead? To becoming someone who has healed their...

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Grounded and together 

At the end of the recent class I offered to couples here in Ibiza a woman shared that after doing the practices she felt really open, deeply in love, in profound connection with her partner, and at the same time really grounded within herself. I thought: “Yes, that’s...

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Priestess School – the school for feminine leaders

Priestess School is a school for feminine leaders. Next year in Module 5 - The Leadership Training - women will be empowered to start teaching this work at the Priestess School. Being a Leader is not a piece of cake. Being a Leader means that you have to show up for...

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What I learnt from 6 months of celibacy

It was not the kind of celibacy when you don’t have sex because there’s no one around to have sex with. It was a choice to be single and to look at myself deeply, consider my sexual pulls and seduction strategies, and observe where and how I was leaking my life force...

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Next time you are having a fight with your partner do this

What's the best idea for the times when conflict is on the horizon in your relationship? When you are triggered and know that you are tapping into a challenging territory, DON’T TALK ABOUT IT! At least talking should not be the first thing you do. Talking takes you...

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Your inner work will pay off

About this time three years ago I was in a tiny dark ground floor apartment in Lisbon: I hadn’t eaten for a few days, I was dealing with an infection, I was purging a lot of guilt and grief that my breakup had brought to the surface, I hardly left the house, I was...

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Self confidence and one bullet that kills it all

I don’t have a lot of interest in knowing what people out there say about me. I still hear things of course. One thing that keeps coming back is that people make a near equivalence between me and self confidence. Like, Sofia = self confidence. It took me a moment to...

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We are designed to be fucked by love

In relationships I have at times been avoidant AF. I would withdraw in the face of discomfort, incapable of communicating. I have also been anxious AF. I would demand attention and suffer because I’d never get it through my subtle or direct demands. I also have been...

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The Feminine, Trust and Sisterhood

For a long time, I couldn’t trust women. I was even scared of them. They felt so unpredictable, unreliable, unsafe... Then, about ten years ago I gathered my first women’s circle. Women of different ages, different backgrounds, different cultures came together and sat...

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Feminine empowerment – what is it about?

The whole topic of feminine empowerment is fascinating, and just like with anything else, if we become too serious about it, we receive a major slap on the face. Let’s look at the 2 polar ends of this topic: 1. Women tend to give away their power by projecting their...

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Relaxed arousal

People tend to think that in order to feel pleasure we must create sensation through stimulation. Stimulation may vary: from playing with feathers to very rough handling of the genitals, watching porn and fantasising. I don’t recommend watching porn and using intense...

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