Every woman has these three aspects within her. They are all equally important. And they all need to be accepted and loved.
The Little Girl is that very young part of you. She is usually quite wounded, as she has absorbed everything like a sponge, she doesn’t have filters; she is very receptive and tender. My little girl is the one who falls in love, for example, and creates a romantic dream out of it. As long as I couldn’t see that it was her making the choices – she ran the show. Following her pull I would at times end up with people who were obviously not a match. (My little girl can start a relationship with someone just because “he is so pretty, I like to hold his hand!”).
The Woman is the normal human woman. She is the one who in her true essence is deeply alive, wild, and ecstatic. Yet she has very important needs: she needs to feel safe so her heart can open, she needs to feel appreciated, seen and loved. She is the one who suffers from rejection; she is the one who wants to bond, to possibly be a mother. She experiences all the other very simple normal human needs and wants.
The Priestess is that part of us that is here in service to Love, to Truth, to the Divine. She wants nothing more than to be the conduit of divine love in this world. Some women a very open priestess channel, and they recognize other priestesses and priests in an instant. The Priestess is a part of us that is deeply attuned with the mystical realms, that feels a lot more at home in the subtle worlds rather than the physical one. At times she is quite perplexed about this human world and why did she even choose to incarnate. The human life feels rather broken to her.
A common thing that happens is that the Priestess in us doesn’t approve of the Woman and her needs, of the Little Girl and her insecurities.
However, loving all our human parts is what we desperately need right now not only as women but as humanity.
It is inevitable that from time to time one of them will be more at the forefront in your life. However, as soon as we start prioritizing one over the other, we are creating an imbalance.
It is wise to make sure all three parts are well nourished and happy.
It is really powerful for the Priestess to learn to be fully here, to be tamed a little and understand and experience the human love. Being involved in “normal human life” is not going to make her any smaller.
At the same time it’s important to stay alert and not compromise the energy of the Priestess either, by trying to do “the normal thing”, “the normal relationship” and ignoring the calling of the Spirit. If your Priestess essence is strong you can pretty much forget about “the normal thing”.
You were not born for the normal, you were born for the extraordinary.
Another tendency is to ignore the little girl inside. She gets shy, she tries to win other people’s love and asks for validation, yet she is not silly. She is who she is and she has her needs.
We need to be feeling, tending to ourselves, parenting ourselves, developing our masculine and feminine sides, creating safety for ourselves… and then, there comes a moment when we need to drop it all and show up.
All the people that assist in my trainings practice something that I call “a superhuman type of business”. I invite them to be fully in their own process, and at the same time be so spacious and present, so whenever anyone needs them – they can be available. It is intense! But that’s a glorious way to live our life. To be a deeply feeling and real human, someone who will NEVER be perfect, someone who has not even been designed to have their shit together and be perfect! And at the same time be vast, anchored, alert, move from spaciousness and silence and do what needs to be done, moment by moment.
And yes, it is totally possible.