Only a decade ago I wouldn’t have even considered leaving the house without having my toe nails painted. I would refuse to get sexy unless I had perfectly smooth legs and a Brazilian bikini.
Then one day during one of my visits to Australia a man friend asked me:
“Why do you use that nail polish?”
“What do you mean, why? Do you wanna suggest I stop shaving and go all feral?” – I responded, irritated.
“Well, looking after yourself is important. Shaving or not is your choice to make and it doesn’t make you sick, but what’s the reason behind putting that toxic shit on your body – that’s a mystery to me”.
“Hm,” – I said.
I pondered his words. Read the contents on the label of a bottle of nail polish…
Since then I have used nail polish only once. And it felt gross, fake and suffocating for my nails.
Many women confuse femininity with smooth legs, very little to no pubic hair, sexy lingerie, nail polish, makeup, perfect magazine-like boobs and ass, nice dresses and fancy hair.
Meaning if they don’t have those things in place, they don’t feel feminine or beautiful.
Much more seldom, but it happens, this attitude spreads to men too: some men are only attracted to a polished Barbie-like image of a woman. They may even ask their woman to undergo plastic surgery to fit in with that image more. (OMFG)
This situation is a product of a deeply rooted shadow that exists in modern society. This shadow is around what femininity means.
True femininity has nothing to do with any of those ideas. It is not about creating an image and upholding it. It is not about fitting into ANYONE’s idea of how a good woman should look. True femininity is about shining from inside out. And that will never be substituted by layers of makeup.
If you don’t feel feminine without the above-mentioned attributes, please, dear one, try living without them.
For how long?
For as long as it takes to start really loving yourself.
Loving your body just as it is. Accepting that there is nature, rawness and wisdom in all its ways. That the colour of your nails is naturally beautiful. Loving your hair just the way nature gave it to you. The hair on your body is nothing to obsess about because it is natural to have hair growing. All of that has a purpose.
The bush has a purpose too! The downward pointing triangle is an ancient symbol of the feminine. It points to the Earth and grounds our energy and protects us on both physical and energetic levels. The hair also allows you to release more of your pheromones (more on that soon).
The more relaxed you are in your own skin, the more naturally attractive you become. Underneath the layers of disconnect, anxiety and addiction to control, every person is naturally beautiful.
The question is, do you dare to give yourself permission to be beautiful?