Romantic love – an immature illusory ideal or an expression of freedom?
I must admit I spent a while being quite sceptical about romantic relationships. I kept seeing people entering relationships to fill up holes within their own hearts, and believing that the other person could make them feel complete. I’ve witnessed the way couples...
Your inner work will pay off
About this time three years ago I was in a tiny dark ground floor apartment in Lisbon: I hadn’t eaten for a few days, I was dealing with an infection, I was purging a lot of guilt and grief that my breakup had brought to the surface, I hardly left the house, I was...
We are designed to be fucked by love
In relationships I have at times been avoidant AF. I would withdraw in the face of discomfort, incapable of communicating. I have also been anxious AF. I would demand attention and suffer because I’d never get it through my subtle or direct demands. I also have been...
The Feminine, Trust and Sisterhood
For a long time, I couldn’t trust women. I was even scared of them. They felt so unpredictable, unreliable, unsafe… Then, about ten years ago I gathered my first women’s circle. Women of different ages, different backgrounds, different cultures came together and...
Hacking jealousy
I used to consider myself a very jealous person. I also had a lot of shame about it. Wherever I would show up with my partner I would check out all the women and mark some of them with a thought of “danger”. I was constantly comparing myself to other women. And...
THE AUTHOR
Sofia Sundari is a mystic, tantrika and a writer. She facilitates courses on tantric & taoist sexuality and mystical femininity and helps people all over the world remember the power and innocence of their erotic nature.