June 15, 2015

What is the best part about sex?

Thrills? Orgasms? Surrender to love? Dirty talk? The possibility of expressing the naughtiest parts of us?…

Well, it’s all great, but the greatest thing is intimacy.

Pure, deep intimacy.

Intimacy is that feeling of being close to someone, the special warmth you share.

Intimacy is the emotional connection and response you have to your partner.

Actually you can have intimacy without having sex at all.

As intimacy grows, your inhibitions lessen.

The more you become at ease with your sexuality, the more likely you are to embrace all aspects of it. Even things that were a taboo for you before (like maybe dirty talk). As you become comfortable with your sexuality, you become a more whole, more empowered human being. Therefore even your success in life increases.

But see I’m not saying fuck more and then you will be more successful and live happily ever after.

I’m saying build the intimacy with your partner, embrace your sexuality, have a great sex life, expand your comfort zones…

Your life will change.

Now, I have another question for you:

Do you ever talk dirty to your partner?

If you do that’s awesome, if you don’t and feel shy or ashamed – this might be an interesting aspect of intimacy to explore. And if you don’t have a partner at the moment – read on, hopefully with your next partner you will be up for it.

And here’s why.

It’s pretty amazing that studies show that over 80% of our sex life takes place in our heads. Meaning that fantasy, memory and desire are some of the most powerful driving forces behind everything we do in the bedroom.

Also keep in mind that the naughtiest dirty talk is usually the hottest. One thing is just using dirty words here and there. But a completely different dimension is when you tell your partner how exactly you want to take them/be taken. In the most graphic terms you can imagine.

The naughtier the talk the more turned on you both will feel.

And you know why?

Because it is a TABOO.

From an early age we are told that dirty words are bad. Saying naughty things is not what good girls/boys do.

Breaking that taboo with a partner makes you feel adventurous. You might blush, or get paranoid and wonder what would happen if anyone heard you talking like this!

These are great signs actually! It means you have opened a door inside yourself.

Dirty talk is something that can really enrich your life, it can take your intimacy to a new level. It might take you out of your comfort zone (great), bring freshness into the relationship (even better), make you feel very hot and self-confident (fantastic!).

I love talking dirty, I love feeling my beloved get a little intimidated, and seeing him blush – yet it’s so great to feel him getting turned on. Dirty talk is awesome for foreplay too. And how wonderful it is when a session of foreplay begins when sex ends and stretches over hours or sometimes even days…


Hope you are convinced to give it a try! What’s the best dirty thing that you ever said? Or that was said to you? Please share in the comments – it will make my day!


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