The whole topic of feminine empowerment is fascinating, and just like with anything else, if we
become too serious about it, we receive a major slap on the face.
Let’s look at the 2 polar ends of this topic:
1. Women tend to give away their power by projecting their inner masculine on the external man, or a woman. This is something we sucked in from patriarchy together with our mothers’ milk. That’s the voice that tells us: “you don’t need to drive a car – there will always be someone who will drive it for you”. That’s the part of us that looks at someone else when we feel perplexed, thinking that another person has THE answer. Hoping someone else will show up and fix everything. Usually a man. But not necessarily. We do this instead of looking for resources within, or trusting our inner knowledge and letting our masculine side show up and take care of us.
2. The downside of this is that by trying to be the same as men, women’s inner men become
very competitive. Like: “I know how to do this better and faster. I’ve been doing it all my life, after all”. In this case we take so much responsibility that we deprive others from the possibility of showing up. That’s where emasculation begins. And then I have these women come to sessions sounding as if they were part of a sect, all repeating the same thing: “I want to re-connect to my femininity, I feel like a man in a skirt and I keep attracting men who want a mommy.”
Ah! So that wasn’t what we wanted with this total emancipation and equal rights?!
Obviously not. We just didn’t know when to stop.
What do we actually want, then?
We want balance. We want to feel capable and not be driven by neediness. We don’t want our life to be ruled by the little manipulative princess, who makes herself pretty to get what she needs.
We want to feel secure in our inner union of masculine and feminine so that we can enjoy the play of polarities and discern when is the time to play in the feminine and when – in the masculine.
We don’t want to get lost to games of competition, because it takes away our radiance.
We want to own our power.
We want to know how to make things happen.
And we want to unlock our access to the real feminine gift of longing.
This longing isn’t about wanting or asking for something. This longing is something that originates from the depth of the feminine Mystery which we all have access to. Longing originates from the spaciousness of the womb. Longing is something we can rest into, longing is where all the answers are.
Are you interested in moving in the world, resting in your heart’s longing and feeling totally aligned with your purpose and your unique gift at the same time?
Then the Priestess School could be a great fit for you.
(Photo from the Priestess School, module 1 this year in Bali.)
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