September 9, 2020

Most people think that lovemaking requires a hard lingam.⠀

As soon as the man is no longer erect most couples end the lovemaking. Of course if he ejaculated he will have the refractory period as there is a loss of energy. Normally men would require a period of rest.⠀

But if he didn’t ejaculate and the lingam is soft – is it a sign to stop?⠀

My invitation is to reframe the idea that to make love the man needs to be hard.⠀

My invitation is to learn to trust the intelligence of the body. When the lingam becomes soft don’t label it as a failure or end.⠀

Stay with it and find new ways of making love. ⠀

Find the edge that this softness is inviting you to. ⠀

Feel the vulnerability of it. ⠀

It is the soft heart that allows a soft cock. ⠀

But can you handle the intensity of the soft heart?⠀

This is when things get really wild!⠀

Both partners need to be willing to dive into this exploration.⠀

It takes a yoni that is awake and activated to recognize the pleasure in subtlety. It takes a yoni that is nourished to be able to really embrace and fully welcome a lingam.⠀

And in that – profound healing happens. ⠀

A healing that extends way beyond your bedroom. ⠀

A healing that extends into the world, and how the Masculine and Feminine meet. ⠀

Where the warriors can soften their brave hearts. ⠀

And the priestesses can expand into a space of safety and love that is beyond ordinary.⠀

As we show up for each other, and touch each other with kindness, we become healers for each other, healers for this world. ⠀

Just like in ancient days the High Priests and High Priestesses would come together to awaken the light within each other. ⠀

Because we have always known, that we can never shine alone.⠀

We can only shine together, rising as a whole.⠀


To have guidance and support as you are unleashing your power – I’d love you to join Activated Woman or Activated Man masterclass.⠀

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