We are trying to create pleasant experiences and repel the unpleasant. When we have unpleasant experiences, we tend to think that something has gone wrong. Others did me wrong. I did wrong to myself.
This becomes a game. And over time you learn the drill quite well, unless you pretend not to. The drill goes: you’re happy and well when things make you feel pleasant. You’re unhappy and low when things do not go according to your plan. You may tend to indulge in these emotions and tell the world that it’s a bad place full of bad people.
Hopefully, one day you get to see the drill.
And ask: is there a way out?
If you follow this question it takes you to the most incredible places. It becomes a journey.
I have some good news: this journey has an end.
It comes to an end when you dare to take responsibility for your life.
And ask another question:
What is in it for me?
Then you discover that in every situation you can choose to lean in, instead of fighting.
If someone is behaving like shit with you, you can harden, kick, yell and scream.
Or you can process this, let yourself kick, yell and scream… and then once the emotional waves calm down, you can discover that whatever the situation is, it is simply an invitation to show up. To see things from a distance. To understand your role in it. To show up for what you believe in.
To show up for what you believe in.
You don’t have to be stuck in suffering when things don’t go the way you’d like them to.
Suffering is a choice. Always.
So will you keep choosing suffering, or will you choose to let the fire burn and show up as You no matter what?
I think I know your answer.
Let’s do this together.
Let’s show up for love.
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