If you are constantly wondering if your partner is hiding something, or if they are lying or cheating, it doesn’t say much about them, but it says a lot about you.
Unless you are with a totally misguided person who doesn’t really want to be with you, in most cases these thoughts are not based on what is really happening. On rare occasions you might get a ping from your intuition: then you know – something has happened. But if, instead, it’s paranoid, obsessive thoughts that keep coming back, it’s time to get really honest with yourself, my friend.
Perhaps you cannot fully trust yourself on some level. Perhaps you are hiding something from yourself.
What are you lying to yourself about?
Maybe you find that you keep fantasising about other people, and deep down can’t fully trust yourself to be able to stay faithful to your partner?
Maybe you are trying to have control over your life and your partner, and the fact that you can’t freaks you out?
Maybe you don’t feel worthy of being with someone who really honours you?
The degree of honesty that we have with ourselves is exactly the same we have with our relationships.
So don’t demand honesty from your partner, work on your own honest relationship with yourself instead.
Only when we live in alignment with our true nature do honesty, openness, harmony, joy, trust and love happen spontaneously and naturally.