Unlived Grief

We have to give space to grief.⠀
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Truth is we are all grieving. ⠀
We are all hurting.⠀
When we don’t give space to grief it turns into our shadow. ⠀

Unlived grief will make you overly reactive.⠀
It will make you direct your energy in all the wrong places. It will make you enter into long debates, including those on social media.⠀
It will make you respond with judgement, aggression and disgust to what other people are posting.⠀
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It will do anything until it finally gets your attention.⠀
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That’s when you will finally slow down. ⠀
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We have to let ourselves be touched by Life. Life hurts sometimes. ⠀
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And it is ok.⠀
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It is ok to feel pain and it is important to consciously express it. ⠀
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𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀.⠀
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As someone who’s main coping mechanism most of my life was repressing feelings, I can say that if you don’t explode from time to time you implode. And you become the most aggressive parasite – you start eating yourself from inside.⠀
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When these trapped feelings get bottled up they have to find a way to come out. Be it through sudden bursts of anger, or disease. ⠀
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𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲.⠀
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Here are some things that you may need to grieve: ⠀
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That you will never have the parents you wish you had. That the rainforests are being cut down. That almost all koalas died in fires. That people that you care about speak and act from deep ignorance. That you were betrayed and hurt and left alone.⠀
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How long will you grieve for? Maybe 1 hour or 1 week, or it may be months.⠀
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But once a feeling is fully felt, you become freer, more open and loving.⠀
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I know that it may be scary to really let yourself feel. It may feel as if you may be swallowed by that feeling and die…⠀

In fact this is the fear of the Feminine, this is the Fear of Life. ⠀
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We all have it. ⠀
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Each of us has to face that fear. In facing fear and grief we are honouring Life. ⠀
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Through that you Let Her open you, bigger than you ever thought was possible. ⠀
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Whenever you end up on a receiving end of unlived grief expressed as hate and judgement, see it for what it is. Don’t take attacks personally and take care of your heart. ⠀