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Next time you are having a fight with your partner do this

The best idea for the times when conflict is on the horizon in your relationship: When you are triggered and know that you are tapping into a challenging territory, DON’T TALK ABOUT IT! At least talking should not be the first thing you do. Talking takes you in your mind, and the mind knows nothing about love. WHAT TO DO IF NOT TALK THEN? Ignore the issue? Pretend that nothing happened? Um, no. Engage energetically, move or dance together, breathe together, look in each other’s eyes in...

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Next time you are having a fight with your partner do this

The best idea for the times when conflict is on the horizon in your relationship: When you are triggered and know that you are tapping into a challenging territory, DON’T TALK ABOUT IT! At least talking should not be the first thing you do. Talking takes you in your...

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Your inner work will pay off

About this time three years ago I was in a tiny dark ground floor apartment in Lisbon: I hadn’t eaten for a few days, I was dealing with an infection, I was purging a lot of guilt and grief that my breakup had brought to the surface, I hardly left the house, I was...

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Self confidence and one bullet that kills it all

I don’t have a lot of interest in knowing what people out there say about me. I still hear things of course. One thing that keeps coming back is that people make a near equivalence between me and self confidence. Like, Sofia = self confidence. It took me a moment to...

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We are designed to be fucked by love

In relationships I have at times been avoidant AF. I would withdraw in the face of discomfort, incapable of communicating. I have also been anxious AF. I would demand attention and suffer because I’d never get it through my subtle or direct demands. I also have been...

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The Feminine, Trust and Sisterhood

For a long time, I couldn’t trust women. I was even scared of them. They felt so unpredictable, unreliable, unsafe... Then, about ten years ago I gathered my first women’s circle. Women of different ages, different backgrounds, different cultures came together and sat...

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Hacking jealousy

I used to consider myself a very jealous person. I also had a lot of shame about it. Wherever I would show up with my partner I would check out all the women and mark some of them with a thought of “danger”. I was constantly comparing myself to other women. And...

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Listening as a spiritual practice

No matter what you say, most people always receive your words through their own prism. If you are talking about your experience, they will be unavoidably comparing it to the experiences they’ve had. It’s coming from a beautiful place, I believe - from the place of...

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Love for the sake of loving

How can I love you from purity? How can I love you from presence? How can I love you from spaciousness? How can I love you without mixing in desire that’s boiling in my belly and burning me to ashes from within?... How can I love you without mixing in the need to be...

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Feminine empowerment – what is it about?

The whole topic of feminine empowerment is fascinating, and just like with anything else, if we become too serious about it, we receive a major slap on the face. Let’s look at the 2 polar ends of this topic: 1. Women tend to give away their power by projecting their...

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Relaxed arousal

People tend to think that in order to feel pleasure we must create sensation through stimulation. Stimulation may vary: from playing with feathers to very rough handling of the genitals, watching porn and fantasising. I don’t recommend watching porn and using intense...

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How to make them want you

There are lots of strategies that you can learn to get the attention of someone you like. There are even so-called “pick up artists” that spend their entire lives mastering these kinds of tricks. You can take classes on how to become the most desirable person ever....

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When sex hurts

People commonly think that sex is all about pleasure, joy, ecstasy and orgasms. But most of us have experienced sex which was painful, sex during which we experienced burning and aching in the genitals and pelvis. Many people have also experienced sex which provoked...

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Are you scaring away your beloved?

I receive many emails from people (mostly women) asking how to attract a beloved. Maybe there is someone in your life that you want a deeper connection with. Or maybe you haven’t met this person yet, but you want to welcome him/her into your life. Some women end up...

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Sexploration

I find that it is quite important to have at least one phase in your life when you engage in lots of sexual experiments, either with lots of sexual partners or with one partner who is willing to really go for it with you. It’s a time to let yourself be naughty,...

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Men and sensuality

It’s very easy to find sensual images of women. But so hard to find sensual images of men! Why? Is it because sensuality is not manly? Is it because men are not supposed to be emotional, to feel, to enjoy their body? Is a man only supposed to be strong, provide for...

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Are you pleasure dependent on a partner?

“Sexuality? It’s not for me, I’m single,” - a phrase I’ve heard dozens of times. This implies that this person believes that their sexual energy only gets activated when they have a partner. Meaning that it is the partner who activates them. If you think that way, I...

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5 steps to getting sexy with yourself

Self-pleasure is actually a form of love making. And it is not the sex you have when you can’t get “real sex.” How you do yourself (or don’t) is a key in understanding your deeper erotic needs and your huge erotic potential. Knowing yourself is how you help your...

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Your vibrator is not your friend

Vibrators might give lots of pleasure, but let’s face it: the degree of stimulation that they offer is far more intense than what happens during intercourse. Some women tend to develop an addiction to intense stimulation, and then don’t feel much during sex. But...

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Before you came

Before you came There were moments when I questioned whether the life I had chosen could accept you next to me, I questioned whether there was enough space for you... I questioned and dismissed everything I’d seen modelled in the world of relationships. I was calling...

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