Reasons your sexuality is offline

1. You are living a lie.

Eros is your truth-teller.
If you’re betraying yourself by staying in a situation you’ve outgrown, toxicity builds in your system.
Your body shifts into survival, and sxx goes offline.
Sxual ecstasy is luxury.
You have to be in vibrational alignment with luxury to live it.
Survival and luxury can’t coexist.

As trust (that you won’t abandon yourself) comes back, your erotic aliveness comes back with it.

2. You’re having sex the way you did when you were a teenager.

Rushing, fast action, goal oriented…
It may work at the start of a relationship, when you’re hot and bothered by default.
But it isn’t coherent with the feminine body or arousal system.
If you want to bring more of your soul into your life, space for the feminine must be consciously created, in your sxxuality too.

3. You hold resentment toward your partner, or toward men or women in general.

Unintegrated pain wants your attention.
Your body won’t open if your heart is guarded.
You can’t go wild in bed and be shut down in life.
Your emotions need to be lived, moved and integrated.

4. You’ve become the giver and forgotten how to receive.

You hold everyone, so you never soften and let yourself be held.
Arousal needs receptivity. Receptivity needs safety.
If you don’t know how to govern this safety to yourself, your partner won’t know either.

5. Your nervous system is running on stress.

Rushing, screens, constant doing.
Eros lives in the body, at the pace of the body.
It can’t find you at speed.

6. You’re waiting for someone else to turn you on.

Your sexuality is your own life force.
It begins with you, long before anyone touches you.

Shut down is not the end of your sexuality.
It’s an invitation.
Your body isn’t broken. It’s asking for truth and presence.

Your vibrant, uninhibited sexual expression is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, your lover, and the whole world.

Even your children feel the difference when you’re truly alive.

Why do I say this?

Because I’ve been that woman. After years of blossoming in the most magnificent way, I went through a complete sexual shutdown, and I’ve seen what each one did to my life and my psychological wellbeing.

Whether or not you have a partner, sexual shutdown is THE big reason you’re not feeling vibrantly ALIVE, magnetic and creative, the way Love made you.

Coming back online didn’t happen by trying harder.

It happened by remembering how the feminine actually opens.

Through truth. Through deep presence and listening. Through letting myself receive…

Save this for the days you forget it’s not your fault.

And stay close.

This Black Friday we going to Have a party for those ready to come back to life. 🤍