To the Man Still Searching, and the Woman Who Waits

There was a boy
who learned that love wasn’t safe.
No one modeled for him
what love truly is…

So he grew into a man
with a dark hole in his heart.
A dark space yearning to be filled…

Then he meets a woman.
Her energy awakens something within him…

And still…
woman after woman,
he opens a door
but doesn’t walk through,
because walking through
would mean staying,
and staying would mean
being truly seen,
and being seen
is the thing he fears most,
though he calls it freedom.

An open heart does not chase
what it already has.
The only force that is ever able
to fill that hole… is love.
But love cannot grow
in absence of commitment…
which means showing up,
day in and day out.

Love isn’t asking you to try harder,
to chase one more prize…
Love is asking you to pause
and feel what’s underneath this endless search…
There is the boy who learned somewhere along the way
that love wasn’t safe and
the man who’s been running from that feeling
ever since, without knowing it.

Come home to yourself.
Then… come to her.

And sister, hear this too.
Your responsibility was never
for what he chose.
Your responsibility is

of loving yourself first,
fiercely, without apology.

Your responsibility is
of being a full woman:
not waiting,
not shrinking to be chosen.
Of choosing the right man,
not any man who simply reaches for you.
Of honouring your Golden No
Of being unapologetic in your Yes…

Of being the guardian of Love —
not by fixing him,
but by being so fully home in yourself
that love has no choice but to rise and meet you.

Do not abandon your pleasure.
Do not abandon your joy.
Do not abandon yourself
for the sake of being understood, or chosen, or safe.

You are not here to edit him.
You are here to come home…

and from that home,
let Him
find his way to you.

Every man carries a boy who learned love wasn’t safe. Every woman carries the power to come home to herself first… to be so fully present in her heart that love has no choice but to rise and meet her.

I love you, Man.
I love you, Woman.

Let these be the times when we truly find each other.