In the ideal world we would always be open and available to each other. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But in the human world it’s not always the case.
When you see your partner closing, being tense and distancing… The typical reaction is to “buy” it, get affected and withdraw.
However even if one of the partners has the courage and willingness to stay open – everything can change. It is not going to be pleasant. But if you stay rooted in your commitment to love, things will shift.
So when your partner closes off – drop into the moment with them: connect your eyes, synchronise your breath, relax your body and your heart. This will create a deeper presence and trust in the moment. Then try really feeling your beloved and his/her vulnerability. You may feel the inner child who is in panic or other tender parts. Try talking to these parts and holding them.
If it doesn’t help it means that much deeper work on wounds that trigger this closing is required.
It is not easy but it is vital to learn how to show up for each other’s vulnerability. How we do this will determine the health of the relationship. When we navigate challenging moments in relationships we inevitably bond deeper.
Hence: don’t fear challenges, don’t fear moments when you feel contracted in your relationship. Instead, share what’s going on for you and let your beloved show up for you.
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