How to own your pleasure

There is a belief among women that our partner is the one who is in charge of our pleasure, who is supposed to give us orgasms, who will awaken us sensually.

Gosh, that’s a lotta pressure!

Yes, your partner can open you up, but mostly to the extent that you are already open.

I have to tell you something: you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel ecstasy in your body as well as to feel radiant and juicy.

In fact, you (yes, you) can have massive amounts of pleasure by yourself, and without even touching yourself. This is something that often happens to the participants spontaneously during Mystical Femininity workshops. Simply because there is space in which women are allowed to experience and express ALL of themselves. And the feedback is mostly the same: “Omg I didn’t know I could do it, this is so empowering!”

Eros is our nature, 

our bodies are erotic,

pleasure is natural.

Mostly we need to learn to stop suppressing it, really.

Our sensuality, our ignited erotic nature, our sexuality when fully owned alter our life, make us expand, become larger, in all aspects of our life.

Even now: can you feel a bit of tingling in some part of your body now? Maybe in your vulva, or maybe around your breasts, in your toes or forehead? Or can you feel wind touching your skin? Stay with this sensation, breathe and soften more into it, feel the pleasure of it, allow yourself to enjoy it.

This is your birthright.

The extent to which we own our sensuality is the extent to which we own our lives.

Unless you own your sensuality you will always feel dependent or needy in a relationship or while in search for one. Not only it is not attractive, but first of all – that’s one way to give your power away.

You may think that your gynaecologist or your boyfriend or girlfriend or your mother know more about your sexuality or genitals – there’s a big warning here.

When you think that someone else controls your pleasure, you feel like a visitor in your own body. It is one pretty disempowering belief in fact.

Taking full ownership of your body and your pleasure is a big deal. And it’s a complete game changer.

Many of us know a lot about pleasuring a man, but know nothing about pleasuring ourselves. And that’s why not that many men know how to pleasure a woman. And on the contrary, all great lovers that you had in your life were educated by a woman at some point of their life.

Women tend to know more about our teeth than about our vulva.

It has not always been like this.

For 30 to 50 centuries men and women lived in reverence and worship of the Goddess and the power of the feminine sensuality. In prehistoric art vulvas were painted on sacred caves, altars were shaped like the pubic triangle. People knew that the feminine power is the animating force of the entire universe.

How different it is these days.

And what a pity.

Women feel more comfortable when someone else looks at their vulva and inserts medical objects inside of our vaginas than looking and exploring the pussy themselves.

We can’t even utter the words that identify it without embarrassment.

Women are taught to have a lot of shame about their sensuality. Sensuality and pleasure are areas that most women don’t talk about, don’t feel comfortable with.  And if we do talk or express it in most cases there will be someone around who will make us feel that this is dirty or disgusting.

Our mothers didn’t tell us much about it. But their mothers told them even less.

In fact I find that subconsciously many people are scared of the immense power that is going to be available to them as they get in touch with their pleasure.

It is scary because it is unknown.

But it is a choice. A choice to be empowered. A choice to live life fully. A choice to not be satisfied by the mediocre when something extraordinary is available right now.

Women who have a lot of pleasure in their life are hard to miss in a crowd. They look gorgeous. Their life is extraordinary. They are radiantly alive.

And you know what, if you choose to be empowered, to awaken, to own your erotic nature, you are doing it not only for yourself but for the feminine collective.

You are doing it for your daughters and granddaughters. Because each of us is part of the tapestry of this Universe. And as we transform, as we embrace pleasure and joy, it affects everyone else.

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