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When is the right time to enter the mystery (yes, it’s about sex)

There are many women who think that their libido is very low, but in most cases it is just the result of trying to have sex in a masculine way.  Most of these women are trying to get into penetrative sex before they are fully aroused.  Generally speaking, the male arousal is a yang type of arousal. And the female arousal is a yin type of arousal.  It means that masculine sexual energy is like fire, it ignites in the centre (the penis) and after that spreads out. And the feminine sexual energy...

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Why you should not demand honesty from your partner

If you are constantly wondering if your partner is hiding something, or if they are lying or cheating, it doesn’t say much about them, but it says a lot about you. Unless you are with a totally misguided person who doesn’t really want to be with you, in most cases...

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Challenges and happiness

Challenges have a purpose that is bigger than finding a way to resolve these challenges. At times we indulge in the pain and simply sink, lower and lower... But sooner or later there has to come a point when you realise that you are so damn challenged - there’s no way...

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Conscious leaders and how to become one

I have founded two schools,  the Priestess School and the Tantra Mystery School. (You will know everything about the latter really soon). Each of them offers a journey that evidently leads somewhere. But where do they lead? To becoming someone who has healed their...

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Grounded and together 

At the end of the recent class I offered to couples here in Ibiza a woman shared that after doing the practices she felt really open, deeply in love, in profound connection with her partner, and at the same time really grounded within herself. I thought: “Yes, that’s...

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Priestess School – the school for feminine leaders

Priestess School is a school for feminine leaders. Next year in Module 5 - The Leadership Training - women will be empowered to start teaching this work at the Priestess School. Being a Leader is not a piece of cake. Being a Leader means that you have to show up for...

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What I learnt from 6 months of celibacy

It was not the kind of celibacy when you don’t have sex because there’s no one around to have sex with. It was a choice to be single and to look at myself deeply, consider my sexual pulls and seduction strategies, and observe where and how I was leaking my life force...

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Next time you are having a fight with your partner do this

What's the best idea for the times when conflict is on the horizon in your relationship? When you are triggered and know that you are tapping into a challenging territory, DON’T TALK ABOUT IT! At least talking should not be the first thing you do. Talking takes you...

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Your inner work will pay off

About this time three years ago I was in a tiny dark ground floor apartment in Lisbon: I hadn’t eaten for a few days, I was dealing with an infection, I was purging a lot of guilt and grief that my breakup had brought to the surface, I hardly left the house, I was...

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Self confidence and one bullet that kills it all

I don’t have a lot of interest in knowing what people out there say about me. I still hear things of course. One thing that keeps coming back is that people make a near equivalence between me and self confidence. Like, Sofia = self confidence. It took me a moment to...

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We are designed to be fucked by love

In relationships I have at times been avoidant AF. I would withdraw in the face of discomfort, incapable of communicating. I have also been anxious AF. I would demand attention and suffer because I’d never get it through my subtle or direct demands. I also have been...

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The Feminine, Trust and Sisterhood

For a long time, I couldn’t trust women. I was even scared of them. They felt so unpredictable, unreliable, unsafe... Then, about ten years ago I gathered my first women’s circle. Women of different ages, different backgrounds, different cultures came together and sat...

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Hacking jealousy

I used to consider myself a very jealous person. I also had a lot of shame about it. Wherever I would show up with my partner I would check out all the women and mark some of them with a thought of “danger”. I was constantly comparing myself to other women. And...

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Listening as a spiritual practice

No matter what you say, most people always receive your words through their own prism. If you are talking about your experience, they will be unavoidably comparing it to the experiences they’ve had. It’s coming from a beautiful place, I believe - from the place of...

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Love for the sake of loving

How can I love you from purity? How can I love you from presence? How can I love you from spaciousness? How can I love you without mixing in desire that’s boiling in my belly and burning me to ashes from within?... How can I love you without mixing in the need to be...

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Feminine empowerment – what is it about?

The whole topic of feminine empowerment is fascinating, and just like with anything else, if we become too serious about it, we receive a major slap on the face. Let’s look at the 2 polar ends of this topic: 1. Women tend to give away their power by projecting their...

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Relaxed arousal

People tend to think that in order to feel pleasure we must create sensation through stimulation. Stimulation may vary: from playing with feathers to very rough handling of the genitals, watching porn and fantasising. I don’t recommend watching porn and using intense...

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How to make them want you

There are lots of strategies that you can learn to get the attention of someone you like. There are even so-called “pick up artists” that spend their entire lives mastering these kinds of tricks. You can take classes on how to become the most desirable person ever....

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